The title to this blog is born out of my frustration from a recent conversation I had with our stake singles representative. For those of you that don't know, in our church there are programs for singles. When you are 18-31 you are considered a young single. When you reach the ripe old age of 32 you are considered just single and this category includes anyone from 32-102 who happens to be single for any reason.
The stake single rep came into work today and I was eating lunch. She pops her head into my office and asks if I'm coming to the New Years eve dance. I said no that I didn't like the dances even when I was younger. Besides, I don't want to go to a singles dance and have to dance with 90 year old men. Not cool. Then she asked if I was coming to the firesides. I said no to that. I have never liked the singles firesides because they are usually boring and sometimes have titles like "I'm single and happy." Well, duh. My feelings towards most of the singles firesides center around that single theme..well, duh. I am sure there are a few of you who can relate.
Then she asks me if I'm online anywhere which means am I on any online sites. My reply is no. If you'll recall I did try ldsplanet but I found out that online dating isn't for me. If you're not super cute and a size zero you get no responses. I really didn't try very hard on ldsplanet but whatever. I figured out pretty quickly that it wasn't for me. Maybe its the timing or just me in general but it was something I grew to be very apathetic about.
Is the conversation over yet? No. These were her parting words.
"So, I guess you're just relying on someone to fix you up." I was like, no I am happy just the way I am. She said, "Well, as long as you're happy."
Let me say this first before I go on my diatribe indicated in my opening title. This woman is very nice and just trying to fulfill her calling but I thought that her delving into my personal and private dating life was a bit much.
Isn't being single good enough for some people? What does it matter if I'm married or not if I am living the gospel and doing the things that I know are right? So what if I don't want to spill my guts out on the Internet on some stupid singles website to try to meet a man? I am not that desperate. I can live this way and be happy. My marital status should have no bearing on my happiness. Do I wish I were married? Of course! Am I going to sit on my hope chest and cry about it? No way! I have too much to do and I am too busy to worry about getting married.
I have good friends, a great family and a good job. When I'm ready maybe I'll step up seeking for a husband but for right now being single is good enough for me.