Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Forgiveness

While my visitor was here last week we were talking about a situation that involved myself and my most recent boyfriend. We parted on not so great terms and I figured out last week that I was still mad about it.

But I don't know what to do about it. I think this is also the reason that I haven't gotten involved with singles here or meeting anyone. I'm just not ready.

Am I crazy? Should I just move on and quite being so melodramatic? Am I being melodramatic?

4 comments:

Heather said...

It's wrong for anyone to tell you you're feelings are not valid. People hurt on different levels, and people deal with their emotions differently. If everyone handled disappointment the same way, we'd all be alcoholics.

However, I don't think you should let this experience cripple your life. It's not your fault that Dumbass had the maturity of a gerbil. You're a great person, and you definitely deserve a lot better than what he had to offer. You also should recognize that not everyone is like him, and there are guys out there who are good, and will see that you are special.

We fall so we can learn how to pick ourselves up. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there because of one bad experience. You not only shortchange yourself, but you also cheat that special someone out of getting to know the real you. The one we all know and love.

Now if you excuse me, I'm going to go back to my cats.

Uno Kidney said...

We all hurt and have pain. What he did to you was horrible, lame, and immature. Don't let someone with those attributes rule your life any longer. In theatre, Gannon had us do a visualization of relaxing by a river, down the river was floating a bunch of boxes, and he had us take our pain, put in the box and watch it float down the river. Best thing I ever did to get over pain I was feeling from a what'shisbucket or two.....

Time to let go......You can still learn, and sometimes it will still hurt, but you can let go and start growing again....
My two cents.

CaptainMorality said...

Kainty!
I want to remind you of a time when we were in your SportTrak on the way to FHE at the singles branch, shortly after I joined the Church. You told me that I should be open to the idea of dating and that a nice guy might come along, different from all the JERKS I had known, and that it might happen sooner then I expected. I didn't believe you, but you told me to keep my mind and heart open to the possibility, and to pray that Heavenly Father would soften my heart so that I wasn't angry anymore.
Yes, this advice came from you!!! Don't you wish I didn't have such a good memory? :o)

Emily said...

My beautiful friend, I worry about you and want you to be happy. You can't let that jerk bother you forever. One day the butterflies will fly, birds will sing, and you will meet prince charming. He probably won't really be a prince, or terribly charming, but hey, we can't all have everything - look who I got stuck with :)
The point is, you deserve happiness and if that means you have to work on forgiveness first, then that is what you should do. I love you!