I have this dilemma with a pair of sisters in my Seminary class. They like to talk and they really like to talk about their parents and what is going on at home. I don't discourage this because I feel like maybe they need someone to talk to who isn't their parent.
Today I was talking to them and one happens to be a Senior who is going to the prom this Saturday. The parents had bought a dress but were forcing her to "lose weight" or they were going to take the dress back and she'd have to wear something else. They tell her not to stop or limit eating but to "eat differently" when there isn't anything in the house to accomplish this. She can't use a measuring tape or a scale to track her progress and this morning she was very hungry. The parents told her that she had to lose weight because she would "pop open the seam" at the hip and she had to go on a diet or she couldn't wear the dress. They make her try it on in front of them and then they criticize her.
To me this is not cool. But then again, I am not a parent so maybe this is normal? Would some of you who are parents please enlighten me? Would you EVER do this to your kid, much less your teenage daughter? And let me also say that this girl isn't large by any stretch of the imagination. My question is why didn't they buy her a dress that fit in the first place? Wouldn't this be a tad bit detrimental to her self image?
I personally think it is ridiculous but this particular set of parents do a lot of things I don't agree with and I am usually at a loss of what to say when the girls are telling me what is going on at home.